Social Taboos

I forgot to mention, you can use social taboos to elicit particular frames. Mainly action frames, or at very least, thinking frames.

Basic Picture Frame Theory

http://youtube.com/watch?v=5wYAQRzJS6w

Alright guys, I tried to break this down as well as I could for you so that way you can see this in action, and relate it to interactions.

In this clip, Mimi is trying to pick up Roger. Notice it's all done with framing mainly. Those of you who have heard me talk about my picture frame theory or who have read about it this is a good example of it.

She is building several types of frames throughout this interaction. This is what would be called a beginner PU in that she is building these frames mostly one after the other instead of all together. Notice: the original frame she wants is the relationship with him. Thats her end goal, but she has to go through the motions with him.

Attraction, comfort, sexual attraction, seduction, I may have missed a few things in here, but for the most part that is whats happening in the video. Read my notes in parenthesis () actions are in brackets [] and the text is regular.

Enjoy! I'll be breaking down more videos here sometime soon. If any of you have any in-field videos I'd be happy to break down those in terms of frames as well.

Roger was toast from the beginning in this video anyway. Just pointing that out.

But lets relate Picture Frame Theory shall we...



Before a person can get what they want they have to make sure they can get the other person to agree to it. I.E. they have to make sure that their frames are set the way the person who is trying to get something needs them to be set. Mimi wanted the relationship (white box) but before she can get that she has to make sure attraction is there (red box), she has to qualify him(grey box) build comfort (black box), and build the sexual frame (blue box) and elicit emotional frame(green box) to get her relationship.

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Framing via Rent – Light my candle

[ROGER]

What'd you forget? (Control Frame)

[MIMI enters, holding a candle and looking for a match;]
[her electricity is down, too.]

[MIMI]

Got a light? (Control frame, establishing attraction)

[ROGER]

I know you? -- You're --
You're shivering (weak frame on his part but he is battling her for the control here, trying not to lay his cards on the table)

[MIMI]

It's nothing
They turned off my heat (she places a side of the frame, red box , im helpless, youre a man help me, playing on a social taboo to help build a frame)
And I'm just a little
Weak on my feet (another side of the frame, red box, im helpless frame again, social taboo to turn her down)
Would you light my candle? (forced action frame after she set the frame another side, red box, turned off the heat, weak and helpless, enforcing the taboo)
What are you staring at? (Bait for attraction frame, she knows what he’s looking at, first side of blue box, first comfort, black box)

[ROGER]

Nothing
Your hair in the moonlight (He has fallen into her attraction frame already, he just enforced the last side of the red box,)
You look familiar (semi reframe on his part, he places the first side of the green box)
[He lights her candle. MIMI starts to leave, but stumbles.]
Can you make it? (She reframed with an internal action frame and ignored his attempt since he was trying to take over the attraction frame (red box), by stumbling, makes him ask if she’s ok, second side to black box, comfort)

[MIMI]

Just haven't eaten much today (reinforcing her frame attraction, red box)
At least the room stopped spinning. (more reinforcement, she’s baiting him to chase her social taboo)
Anyway. What?

[ROGER]

Nothing
Your smile reminded me of – (he bought the chase frame, second side of green box, first side of sexual frame, blue box )

[MIMI]

I always remind people of -- who is she? (third side of green box)

[ROGER]

She died. Her name was April (fourth side, and he just reinforced the emotional side, third comfort side, black box)

[MIMI discreetly blows out the candle.] (frame was going somewhere (emotionally) she didn’t want it to go, so she re-directs to her original frame)

[MIMI]

It's out again (redirect bringing the emotion back up to good karma)
Sorry about your friend (being socially acceptable but then immediately moves on, down playing it to a friend role, not a relationship since that’s what she is looking for notice the tonality change to the next line (Shafts sub personalities post from ET’s blog))
Would you light my candle? (restating the original frame that’s already been established)

[ROGER lights the candle. They linger, awkwardly.]

[ROGER]

Well --

[MIMI]

Yeah. Ow! (creating the tension, and then breaking it, rapport break, starting to really get into the creating chemistry between the two of them here )

[ROGER]

Oh, the wax -- it's -- (he bought further into her frame here)

[MIMI]

Dripping! I like it -- between my – (first boundary of sexual frame, creating the tension, notice tonality (you can actually talk to both sub personalities with practice) she comes on a little to strong with her body language here, second side to blue box)

[ROGER]

Fingers. I figured... (the same as ASD here on his part, he’s not at buying temperature yet)
Oh, well. Goodnight.

[MIMI exits. ROGER heads back toward his guitar on the table.] (she play indifference and walks away)
[There is another knock, which he answers.]

It blew out again? (reverting back to the frame that was previously established since that is now their basis of rapport sorta challenging it at this point)

[MIMI]

No -- I think that I dropped my stash (disqualifying, deferring value now, places more value in something else instead of him, taking his mind off the frame since he is trying to destroy that original frame, trying to build more comfort, black box)

[ROGER]

I know I've seen you out and about (he’s trying to push his frame)
When I used to go out
Your candle's out (using her frame to try and keep commonalities and keep talking to her)

[MIMI]

I'm illin' --
I had it when I walked in the door
It was pure --
Is it on the floor?( after he has re-confirmed the original frame the right way, changing the subject, the first frame being the first wall of the relationship frame she really wanted)

[ROGER]

The floor? (buying into the new boundary of the original frame she wanted) (second wall of relationship she really wanted)

[MIMI gets down on all fours and starts searching]
[the floor for her stash. She lookss back at ROGER,]
[who is staring at her again.]

[MIMI]

They say I have the best ass below 14th street
Is it true? (forced sexual frame)

[ROGER]

What? (a disqualify frame, not strong)

[MIMI]

You're staring again.(forced sexual frame again)

[ROGER]

Oh no.
I mean you do -- have a nice -- (bought into the sexual frame, he is getting close to reaching BT)
I mean -- You look familiar (trying to brake the frame, he’s testing it to see how strong it is)

[MIMI]

Like your dead girlfriend? (punishing him for trying to test her frame)

[ROGER]

Only when you smile. (he tests it again)
But I'm sure I've seen you somewhere else --

[MIMI]

Do you go to the Cat Scratch Club? (buys into his frame, and baits him (since he kept bring that frame into it, she just flipped it and went with it with a bait, proper use of baiting))
That's where I work - I dance - help me look (re-directing the frame)

[ROGER]

Yes!
They used to tie you up -- (hook, line, and sinker, bit the bait.)

[MIMI]

It's a living(disqualifying)

[MIMI douses the flame again.] (bringing back the original relationship frame)

[ROGER]

I didn't recognize you
Without the handcuffs (shit test)

[MIMI]

We could light the candle (framing it in his mind to include her in his thoughts now)
Oh won't you light the candle? (bringing back the original relationship frame)

[ROGER lights it again.] (creating a semi yes chain by making him keep relighting it)

[ROGER]

Why don't you forget that stuff ( shit test)
You look like you're sixteen

[MIMI]

I'm nineteen -- but I'm old for my age (qualifying to him)
I'm just born to be bad (re-frame to sexual with tonality)

[ROGER]

I once was born to be bad (LMR/ASD)
I used to shiver like that

[MIMI]

I have no heat -- I told you (re-frame)

[ROGER]

I used to sweat (shit test)

[MIMI]

I got a cold (re-frame)

[ROGER]

Uh huh
I used to be a junkie (shit test)

[MIMI]

But now and then I like to – (buying into his frame)

[ROGER]

Uh huh

[MIMI]

Feel good (sexual framing with tonality)

[ROGER]

Here it -- um – (buys into her frame and projects one of his own, he has reached buying temp so he’s shit testing her here)

[ROGER stoops and picks up a small object: MIMI's stash.]

[MIMI]

What's that? (making him re-inforce her frame he just bought into)

[ROGER]

It's a candy bar wrapper (shit test/disqualify, flirting more and more)

[ROGER puts it behind his back and into his pocket.]

[MIMI]

We could light the candle (re frame, and re-direct)

[ROGER discreetly blows out the candle.] (re-directing to divert attention flirting)

[MIMI]

What'd you do with my candle? (shit test)

[ROGER]

That was my last match (let the seduction)

[MIMI]

Our eyes'll adjust, thank God for the moon (reframe lays her cards out after she knows hes at BT)

[ROGER]

Maybe it's not the moon at all
I hear Spike Lee's shooting down the street (LMR/shit test)

[MIMI]

Bah humbug ... Bah humbug (freeze out)

[MIMI places her hand under his, pretending to do it by accident.] (Escalation)

[ROGER]

Cold hands (seduction)

[MIMI]

Yours too. (energy shift and changing the pace, bring him out of state she owns his nuts at this point)
Big. Like my father's
You wanna dance?

[ROGER]

With you? (flirting)

[MIMI]

No -- with my father (flirting)

[ROGER]

I'm Roger (caved)

[MIMI]

They call me (she won)
They call me Mimi

[They come extremely close to a kiss.] (walks away, she owns his nuts now)
[MIMI reaches into his pocket, nabs the stash,]
[waves it in front of his face, and makes a sexy exit.]

Part 2 - Picture Frame Theory

Part 2 – Picture Frame Theory at work

Framing someone into something can be calibrated with a simple cause and effect type set up. For instance, if one is sitting on the couch and his buddy walks by, the person on the couch asks his buddy to toss him the pillow on the floor as he walks by: chances are he will since he is walking by. Take that same guy on the couch and let’s instead say that he wants something out of the way for the guy that’s walking by. Let’s say he wants something to drink.

Well, several things HAVE to be considered when implementing a frame…. For one, does that other person live there? Are they a guest or a host? If they are a host are they a good host? Are they in a good mood? Do they even like you (guy who is sitting on the couch)? These are all questions that have to be answered before a controlled frame can even be implemented.

ALL of these, though, are answered before you even bat an eyelash. This is the reason momentum and social proof are so very important.

You are sitting on the couch, and the person that walks in is the host, if they are generous they don’t even care that you are just sitting there, they may wonder why the pillow is on the ground, but regardless. Obviously they somewhat like you since they are being a host, and if they are the generous type host then they are “socially” obligated to treat you better then they would their family…. Sorta (there is a line). You ask them to throw you the pillow on the ground, he will because 1) its his pillow and he doesn’t like his shit on the ground because he takes care of his stuff, 2) he’s the generous host and 3) its on his way through. The picture frame for that person to do something is already established thus picking up the pillow is no big deal.

However, say that person on the couch wanted a drink of water, but didn’t want to get up… the kitchen is NOT on the way. Well we are still in luck, the fact that the host is of the generous kind plays to our lazy man’s plan. All he would have to do then was ask “Hey do you know if we have any ice?” Since it’s not his place its acceptable for him to ask such a question, and chances are the host would then go into the kitchen. Making a glass of water “on the way”. The host will probably ask “Do you want something to drink?” or “Yeah we have a little, why do you ask?” (in which you say “Yes, that would be lovely.” Or “I was thinking about getting something to drink.” (to which he would probably respond “what do you want, ill get it for you.” ))

Picture frame theory is about creating and acknowledging the frame around any given conversation to apply in the way you want, in hopes, for the outcome you wish for.

Take a girl giving her number out. There are a number of reasons women give their numbers out…. They’re drunk, horny, lonely, want to get rid of you and then will never answer or ask who’s this, they really like you, they want to hit on your friend, etc.. the list can go on. Regardless, you want the number…. But you want to get it under the right contexts.

Preferably the, lonely, horny, really like you frame.

How do you establish this? Well getting her to like you is simple… just follow any of the countless community ways of building attraction. The hard part is in the setting the other stages.

Think of frames as a play on stage. There are countless sets that are designed.

Your goals, and what you look for in women are the sets for your frames.

As you go through this play, you will need to set up each picture frame for whatever it is you are trying to accomplish.

By the above example, the lonely and horny parts can be achieved by establishing the life frame or in other words her “Internal Psychological Frame”. How do you do that you might ask… You use your external thinking frames and internal action frames to influence her internal thinking frame and internal action frame. Sound like greek?

Lemme break down the meanings:

These definitions are to be viewed as if in first person.

Internal Thinking Frames – Are frames inside your mind that you are consciously thinking about at any given moment about any given event, thing, person, etc… (i.e. “It’s on! She’s totally digging me” or “I’m the baddest mofo in here.”)
External Thinking Frames – Are phrases you say to make another person consciously think of something (i.e. Don’t think of a black cat.)
Internal Action Frames – Are frames that are a call to action of yourself (i.e. the 3 second rule, put your hand on her leg, etc…)
External Action Frames – are frames that are a call to action of another person (i.e. pick up that pillow, come here)
Internal Physchological Frames – are subconscious beliefs that you currently have in regards to life (inner game)
External Physhological Frames – are subconscious beliefs that another person has in regards to life

When you relate to someone these frames battle each other. For instance if I am talking to you, then my internal thinking frame is your external thinking frame, my internal action frame is your external action frame, and vice versa. What I mean by battling is that “alpha” means that you are in control, your internal frames should NEVER be sacrificed for her or anyone else for that matter unless YOU decide they can be. People will always challenge your internal frames.

So lets read that again:
By the above example, the lonely and horny parts can be achieved by establishing what her “Internal Psychological Frame” is. How do you do that you might ask… You use your external thinking frames and internal action frames to influence her internal thinking frame and internal action frame. Still sound like greek?

Framing takes so many things into consideration; this is why framing has only, up until recently, been taught in person.

That’s all for now, check back soon for part 3.

After a long.....

Sorry fathers for I have sinned, it has been almost 2 months since my last confession...

I have been quite busy actually, developing some new frame work stuff that I don't think I have seen anywhere, there may be people who know it, but I don't think they are aware that they actually know it.

What I am talking about is a break up of 6 different types of frames (at least), there may be more, however I have not found them as of yet.

Internal Thinking Frames
External Thinking Frames
Internal Action Frames
External Action Frames
Internal Physchological Frames
External Physhological Frames

Each one plays an important role in ANY interaction. You have heard El Topo, Sinn, and CJ talk about how frames are the "bounderies of how a social situation is conducted.", and I agree, however I also purpose, is a "picture frame theory" in which applies to the overall picture.

Each person has an all encompassing frame in which their entire LIFE is based. This is where all thier thoughts on ANY subject are formed, thoughts on things from sex before marriage, to abortion, to polotics and who they think should win the election and why, why they eat the foods they do, and why they act a certain way. You see a frame does define the boundry of the social interaction, however to say that one frame is the only thing that does would require one to acknowledge the fact that there are different types of frames as a whole. You can't have an atom unless you have a nucleus and protons/electrons.

Same concept.

I call this picture frame theory, and this is my best explanation of it thus far.

Each color box is representative of a certain pre-existing frame or "internal frame" that someone has in regards to ANYTHING already within their life. The grey is their internal life frame, the other colors could represent anything really however for this example we will consider the white picture frame their "sex frame". Each of the other frames that have to do with "sex" are now tied into this persons reason to or not to have sex. "The reasons are numerous, however, thanks to society and advertising, most women have a pretty standard view of sex and when they will and wont have it. I won't get into the brass tacks here since CJ has covered it pretty well here. He has also covered other aspects of boyfriend frames vs. FB frames check his blog out.

Going back to the model lets say the black frame represents her desire to be wanted in life by others.... standard woman desire, it's bred into them, however, they also want to be considered a "strong, intelligent woman" represented by the red frame, and of course, as CJ has pin pointed they don't want to be judged, represented here by the green frame, and the ability for her to keep it a secret, represented by the blue frame. Everything is taken into acount in whether or not she will or wont have sex with you (white frame) and you have to make sure you cover as many social norms as possible in regards to what frames she has.

Again, CJ has done an excellent job of pointing out the rules for gaining a fuck buddy, HOWEVER these rules apply to everything, not just fuck buddies.

Ever met someone who could talk themselves into free shit, or out of a jam? They utilize picture frame theory in regards to peoples generosity, these people are also border line con artists if not full fledged con artists.

The above is the basis to understand my 6 frames;

Internal Thinking Frames
External Thinking Frames
Internal Action Frames
External Action Frames
Internal Physchological Frames
External Physhological Frames

Ponder on that for a little bit and check back, I will release the meaning behind these 6 frames soon...

More on Framing.

As I sit here shitting, and typing on my laptop....

Let me guess.... you just pictured a guy shitting.... and typing.... chances are, you pictured yourself as that guy...

Lesson 1: CJ has said this before... whatever youre talking about, is happening in their mind.

All game is, is framing.

The act of constantly being sexual, so that way when you are that way to her, you aren't weird. And yes that includes being sexual with your buddies too you sick bastards.

Being alpha also means not giving in to homosexual jokes and nipple tweaks.

Setting the right frames helps tremendously. Being able to read body language helps to set the right frames from the get go.

These are all just random thoughts at the moment.... I must wipe.

First Video Blog

Video Post... Test run

No Scrubs

No Scrubs

A scrub is a guy that thinks he's fly
And is also known as a buster (busta, busta...)
Always talkin' about what he wants
And just sits on his broke ass
So (no)

I don't want your number (no)
I don't want to give you mine and (no)
I don't want to meet you nowhere (no)
I don't want none of your time and (no)

Chorus:
I don't want no scrub
A scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me
Hanging out the passenger side
Of his best friend's ride
Trying to holler at me
I don't want no scrub
A scrub is a guy that can't get no love from me
Hanging out the passenger side
Of his best friend's ride
Trying to holler at me

There's a scrub checkin' me
But his game is kinda weak
And i know that he cannot approach me
Cuz i'm lookin' like class and he's lookin' like trash
Can't get wit' no deadbeat ass
So (no) (yea, yea)

I don't want your number (no)
I don't want to give you mine and (no)
I don't want to meet you nowhere (no)
I don't want none of your time (no)

Chorus

If you don't have a car and you're walking
Oh yes son i'm talking to you
If you live at home wit' your momma
Oh yes son i'm talking to you (baby)
If you have a shorty that you don't show love
Oh yes son i'm talking to you (yea yea yea yea...)
Wanna get with me with no money
Oh no i don't want no (oh)

No scrub (no scrub, no love)
No scrub (no no) (no scrub, no love)
No scrub (no no no no no)
No scrub (no no)
No

Chorus

Chorus

Left eye:
See, if you can't spatially expand my horizon
Then that leaves you in a class with scrubs never risin'
I don't find it surprisin'
If you don't have the g's
To please me and bounce from here to the coast of overseas
So, let me give you somethin' to think about
Inundate your mind with intentions to turn you out
Can't forget the focus on the picture in front of me
You as clear as dvd on digital tv screen
Satisfy my appetite with something spectacular
Check your vernacular
And then i get back to ya
With diamond like precision
Insatiable is what i envision
Can't detect acquisition
From your friend's expedition
Mr. big willy if you really wanna know
Ask chilli, could i be a silly ho
Not really, t-boz and all my senoritas
Is steppin' on your filas
But you don't hear me though

Chorus

Chorus