Part 2 - Picture Frame Theory

Part 2 – Picture Frame Theory at work

Framing someone into something can be calibrated with a simple cause and effect type set up. For instance, if one is sitting on the couch and his buddy walks by, the person on the couch asks his buddy to toss him the pillow on the floor as he walks by: chances are he will since he is walking by. Take that same guy on the couch and let’s instead say that he wants something out of the way for the guy that’s walking by. Let’s say he wants something to drink.

Well, several things HAVE to be considered when implementing a frame…. For one, does that other person live there? Are they a guest or a host? If they are a host are they a good host? Are they in a good mood? Do they even like you (guy who is sitting on the couch)? These are all questions that have to be answered before a controlled frame can even be implemented.

ALL of these, though, are answered before you even bat an eyelash. This is the reason momentum and social proof are so very important.

You are sitting on the couch, and the person that walks in is the host, if they are generous they don’t even care that you are just sitting there, they may wonder why the pillow is on the ground, but regardless. Obviously they somewhat like you since they are being a host, and if they are the generous type host then they are “socially” obligated to treat you better then they would their family…. Sorta (there is a line). You ask them to throw you the pillow on the ground, he will because 1) its his pillow and he doesn’t like his shit on the ground because he takes care of his stuff, 2) he’s the generous host and 3) its on his way through. The picture frame for that person to do something is already established thus picking up the pillow is no big deal.

However, say that person on the couch wanted a drink of water, but didn’t want to get up… the kitchen is NOT on the way. Well we are still in luck, the fact that the host is of the generous kind plays to our lazy man’s plan. All he would have to do then was ask “Hey do you know if we have any ice?” Since it’s not his place its acceptable for him to ask such a question, and chances are the host would then go into the kitchen. Making a glass of water “on the way”. The host will probably ask “Do you want something to drink?” or “Yeah we have a little, why do you ask?” (in which you say “Yes, that would be lovely.” Or “I was thinking about getting something to drink.” (to which he would probably respond “what do you want, ill get it for you.” ))

Picture frame theory is about creating and acknowledging the frame around any given conversation to apply in the way you want, in hopes, for the outcome you wish for.

Take a girl giving her number out. There are a number of reasons women give their numbers out…. They’re drunk, horny, lonely, want to get rid of you and then will never answer or ask who’s this, they really like you, they want to hit on your friend, etc.. the list can go on. Regardless, you want the number…. But you want to get it under the right contexts.

Preferably the, lonely, horny, really like you frame.

How do you establish this? Well getting her to like you is simple… just follow any of the countless community ways of building attraction. The hard part is in the setting the other stages.

Think of frames as a play on stage. There are countless sets that are designed.

Your goals, and what you look for in women are the sets for your frames.

As you go through this play, you will need to set up each picture frame for whatever it is you are trying to accomplish.

By the above example, the lonely and horny parts can be achieved by establishing the life frame or in other words her “Internal Psychological Frame”. How do you do that you might ask… You use your external thinking frames and internal action frames to influence her internal thinking frame and internal action frame. Sound like greek?

Lemme break down the meanings:

These definitions are to be viewed as if in first person.

Internal Thinking Frames – Are frames inside your mind that you are consciously thinking about at any given moment about any given event, thing, person, etc… (i.e. “It’s on! She’s totally digging me” or “I’m the baddest mofo in here.”)
External Thinking Frames – Are phrases you say to make another person consciously think of something (i.e. Don’t think of a black cat.)
Internal Action Frames – Are frames that are a call to action of yourself (i.e. the 3 second rule, put your hand on her leg, etc…)
External Action Frames – are frames that are a call to action of another person (i.e. pick up that pillow, come here)
Internal Physchological Frames – are subconscious beliefs that you currently have in regards to life (inner game)
External Physhological Frames – are subconscious beliefs that another person has in regards to life

When you relate to someone these frames battle each other. For instance if I am talking to you, then my internal thinking frame is your external thinking frame, my internal action frame is your external action frame, and vice versa. What I mean by battling is that “alpha” means that you are in control, your internal frames should NEVER be sacrificed for her or anyone else for that matter unless YOU decide they can be. People will always challenge your internal frames.

So lets read that again:
By the above example, the lonely and horny parts can be achieved by establishing what her “Internal Psychological Frame” is. How do you do that you might ask… You use your external thinking frames and internal action frames to influence her internal thinking frame and internal action frame. Still sound like greek?

Framing takes so many things into consideration; this is why framing has only, up until recently, been taught in person.

That’s all for now, check back soon for part 3.

After a long.....

Sorry fathers for I have sinned, it has been almost 2 months since my last confession...

I have been quite busy actually, developing some new frame work stuff that I don't think I have seen anywhere, there may be people who know it, but I don't think they are aware that they actually know it.

What I am talking about is a break up of 6 different types of frames (at least), there may be more, however I have not found them as of yet.

Internal Thinking Frames
External Thinking Frames
Internal Action Frames
External Action Frames
Internal Physchological Frames
External Physhological Frames

Each one plays an important role in ANY interaction. You have heard El Topo, Sinn, and CJ talk about how frames are the "bounderies of how a social situation is conducted.", and I agree, however I also purpose, is a "picture frame theory" in which applies to the overall picture.

Each person has an all encompassing frame in which their entire LIFE is based. This is where all thier thoughts on ANY subject are formed, thoughts on things from sex before marriage, to abortion, to polotics and who they think should win the election and why, why they eat the foods they do, and why they act a certain way. You see a frame does define the boundry of the social interaction, however to say that one frame is the only thing that does would require one to acknowledge the fact that there are different types of frames as a whole. You can't have an atom unless you have a nucleus and protons/electrons.

Same concept.

I call this picture frame theory, and this is my best explanation of it thus far.

Each color box is representative of a certain pre-existing frame or "internal frame" that someone has in regards to ANYTHING already within their life. The grey is their internal life frame, the other colors could represent anything really however for this example we will consider the white picture frame their "sex frame". Each of the other frames that have to do with "sex" are now tied into this persons reason to or not to have sex. "The reasons are numerous, however, thanks to society and advertising, most women have a pretty standard view of sex and when they will and wont have it. I won't get into the brass tacks here since CJ has covered it pretty well here. He has also covered other aspects of boyfriend frames vs. FB frames check his blog out.

Going back to the model lets say the black frame represents her desire to be wanted in life by others.... standard woman desire, it's bred into them, however, they also want to be considered a "strong, intelligent woman" represented by the red frame, and of course, as CJ has pin pointed they don't want to be judged, represented here by the green frame, and the ability for her to keep it a secret, represented by the blue frame. Everything is taken into acount in whether or not she will or wont have sex with you (white frame) and you have to make sure you cover as many social norms as possible in regards to what frames she has.

Again, CJ has done an excellent job of pointing out the rules for gaining a fuck buddy, HOWEVER these rules apply to everything, not just fuck buddies.

Ever met someone who could talk themselves into free shit, or out of a jam? They utilize picture frame theory in regards to peoples generosity, these people are also border line con artists if not full fledged con artists.

The above is the basis to understand my 6 frames;

Internal Thinking Frames
External Thinking Frames
Internal Action Frames
External Action Frames
Internal Physchological Frames
External Physhological Frames

Ponder on that for a little bit and check back, I will release the meaning behind these 6 frames soon...